What Not to Say

[Ivanna]

Thank you for sharing your experiences everyone. The expectation we set is one of mutual respect.

Since many of us haven't lived the same experiences, it's always helpful to hear another perspective so we can adjust our actions and our interpretation of intentions. Respecting someone comes in many shapes and forms and it's extremely important to have perspective to shape that respect.

We hear you two. We understand that, even though it wasn't meant, explaining why misgendering occurs is hurtful. It's hard enough trying to 'pass' without having things you don't need pointed out again, pointed out again. If this was said, it was thoughtlessly, none the less, out of respect, I will stop doing that. In trying to apologize and explain that it wasn't meant offensively, it did not occur to me that it might be hurtful. Thank you for telling me!

I can say that I at least will be applying that in my future interactions with other trans / non binary people. Thank you for deepening our understand of this issue.