What Not to Say

[Carrion]

We definitely understand that there are folks who larp who might not have had experience with trans folks before, though I suspect that's a dwindling number give how many other trans players I've run into in game. But still, I understand that many of these people might not realize the effect what they see as an innocent comment might have on someone. Which was the intent of the original post.

Kaz was giving their two cents and explaining their point of view. It didn't really beg a rebuttal. It's merely another way to look at the sort of situation we're experiencing using an example people might be more familiar with.

We understand the other side, and have said many times how patient we are trying to be, and how we don't believe they're actively trying to be malicious. We know why they leap to defend themselves, we know why they choose those words. But now it's time to really listen to our side and acknowledge that it doesn't matter why, because we're being hurt by it, and it's unnecessary, because again we already understand why it's happening.